Dear Mike Cares, what advice would you give this lunchroom stalker?

DEAR MIKE CARES: I had a close friendship with a co-worker. We used to have lunch together and shared many personal and intimate stories. We were the two work newbies, even though I started six months before he did. He has adapted well in the work environment, but I'm still struggling with different personalities and communication styles. Because he's better established at work than I am, he has become part of close circles within management. I think he eventually wants to advance his career as far as he can. I feel like I got left behind because his priorities changed, and our friendship was left by the wayside. I'm now realizing people shouldn't have friends at work. Why do I feel such a loss and miss this co-worker who I thought was a friend? -- DISCARDED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR DISCARDED IN CALIFORNIA: You sound like a maladjusted girly-man, clearly not suited for management.  And since you are at work perhaps you should focus on work and not sit around sharing “personal and intimate” stories, which in your case is probably not “I got hammered Saturday night and ended up banging some biker chick who only had four toes and halitosis of the crotch,” because those kinds of stories have upper management written all over them!  Do yourself and your employer a favor, stop jerking around in the lunchroom trying to make friends like some overweight secretary seeking companionship and either get to work or go find a new co-worker to stalk that also lives at home with his cats and his mother. .  Good Luck and Keep in Touch! Dear Mike Cares is also on X, Instagram and Facebook (whatever they are.) For more honest advice, email me your stupid questions at DearMikeCares@gmail.com