Dear Mike Cares, what advice would you give this mental man beater?

DEAR MIKE CARES: My first marriage lasted 31 years. He was a nice man but a lousy husband. He died after a long illness. A year later, I started dating, met another man and fell in love. We dated for a year before he proposed marriage. Two months before the wedding, I called it off because he lacked communication skills and was pretty selfish. His comment was, "We talk at the dinner table. What more do you want?" The next day, I told him it was over. Other than that one issue, we got along well. He spoiled me. We traveled together, and he bought me beautiful jewelry. But he would send endless texts and never reply to mine. He didn't return voicemails I left for him either. When I returned the engagement rings and some jewelry to him, he told me to keep it. I have asked him to leave me alone and stop contacting me. He still texts me about how much he misses me, but he does nothing to fix this. I'm trying to move on, but every time I hear from him, it's painful. I miss him. How can I let go of the hope that he will one day change? -- UNENGAGED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR UNENGAGED IN CALIFORNIA:  Here's a news flash for you: Your first husband did not die, he's hiding somewhere enjoying the quiet solitude and silence you could not provide. As to the new poor bastard who showered you with gifts, travel and even got drunk enough to propose, well, the best thing that happened to him is you telling him it was over.  I say if you miss him and he actually talks to you during dinner, well, that sounds like another perfect man you pushed away.  I hope he reads this letter and stays away; we are rooting for him to steer clear of you and maintain his sanity.  Good Luck and Keep in Touch! Dear Mike Cares is also on X, Instagram and Facebook (whatever they are.) For more honest advice, email me your stupid questions at DearMikeCares@gmail.com