Dear Mike Cares, what advice would you give this old gray mare?

DEAR MIKE CARES: My husband and I have been together for 16 years and have what I consider to be a happy marriage. My question concerns ongoing conversations we have been having about my hair color. The first couple of years we were together, my hair was gray, and then I dyed it red. While I know he loved it, I did it for one reason: I wanted to avoid aging myself unnecessarily in the workplace. My husband knew this.

Two years ago, now retired, I decided to stop coloring my hair. Since then, he continually mentions that he wants me to return to red hair. I have told him repeatedly that I'm unwilling to do that. He says he loved me so much when I was a redhead (does that mean he loves me less now?) and that my "going gray" has made HIM feel old.

I am dismayed and annoyed by his continuing campaign to have me color my hair again, and I have said so. He even brings it up in front of our friends, which feels to me as though he's trying to gather outside support for his argument. I LIKE my gray hair.

It saddens me that my husband finds me less attractive or that my gray hair may be the reason he "feels old," but I wonder why my hair color choice bears that burden of responsibility. Isn't it rightfully my choice? I wouldn't dream of directing him about how to wear his hair. Your thoughts? -- SILVER GIRL IN NEW YORK

DEAR SILVER GIRL IN NEW YORK: Yes, silver granny, your body your choice, is that what you needed to hear? You colored your hair for a bunch of strangers at work but won’t color your hair for your husband, it’s an open and shut case, you are not willing to please your husband!  It’s not like he’s asking you to dye your hair jet black, walk around like a goth vixen and allow him to punish you for trying to look like his mother.  I say color your hair before he becomes addicted to red-headed porn, I Love Lucy reruns or finds a nice teenage ginger willing and able to please him into feeling forever young. Good Luck and Keep in Touch! Dear Mike Cares is also on X, Instagram and Facebook (whatever they are.) For more honest advice, email me your stupid questions at DearMikeCares@gmail.com